This week homesickness has hit me pretty hard. It’s a strange feeling especially to be having now. I’ve been living on my own for a while. There have been times since moving, where I miss being at home. I didn’t just leave and not look back but this week I just cannot shift the feeling.

Mostly I think the reality of living away from home has finally hit me. When we first moved I spent 8 weeks travelling home every weekend for work so I didn’t have to adjust to not seeing family and friends. Once my job moved, things came up and we ended up home at least twice before Christmas. At Christmas we had planned to go home but with plans to spend a few days back at the flat before returning for New Year. However, we both got the flu and spent two full weeks at home.

Coming back to Dundee after those two weeks, the reality of not being able to head home as frequently began to sink in. With work and uni I haven’t been home since Christmas, which really isn’t that long but knowing I can’t just go home when I want to isn’t a nice feeling. We are lucky enough to have the ability to host friends & family over night as we have a second bedroom although so far family have just visited for the day. It’s hard getting a matching schedule when we are both students with part time jobs and our parents work Monday- Friday.

We’ve lived here for 6 months surely I should have felt like this at the beginning not now?

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In the beginning I didn’t need to adjust to not seeing everyone every week because I still had to go home for work. I was so stressed travelling so much and not having a day off because of it that I shut down and went into auto-pilot. I had no time to think about anything apart from hitting deadlines and what city I was expected to be in at what time. Now that I’m in a routine it’s all hit me at once. Not going home so frequently is really hard to adjust to.

When I lived at home I visited my two Gran’s almost every week. I’ve always been close with my grandparents and when my Gran’s ended up on their own I made the point of visiting more often. I know I can phone as much as I like but it’s just not the same as actually spending time with them. Knowing they aren’t going to be around forever makes not seeing them as often really hard for me. It’s probably the reason I miss home the most.

Moving up here also meant changing jobs. I stayed with the same company but I have went from a shop with 20 members of staff to a shop with 250 members of staff. My old job I loved everyone I worked with, we had regular customers who I spoke to constantly and I spent 20 hours a week in the shop if not more. Yes, I moaned about things but I was so lucky to have been in that job. My new job is very lonely, I’m rarely on tills and I rarely work with another person in my department. Having gone from my old job to one that is so lonely was something I wasn’t anticipating when I moved.

University has been another big adjustment. In college I was always in a classroom setting with the same 20 people every day. Being in this setting you become friends with people whether it is genuine friendships for life or just friends because you see each other everyday you still have people to talk to on a daily basis. University is completely different. Maybe it’s because I’m a bit older than the majority of my year group or maybe it’s because I commute but university is lonely. No one prepares you for how lonely it can be.

Now why would being lonely at uni make me homesick?

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The biggest aspect of this is not having people in my life that I can discuss things with. I do speak to people at uni but it’s normally just about coursework. Most people in my year live on campus and when I went to my first lecture I was so intimidated. There were 300+ people and it looked as if everyone was already friends. Many people were in groups talking to each other and it felt like everyone had became friends the weekend before classes started.

Not having people to talk to daily about anything is really strange and it’s definitely contributing to the homesickness. As much as I can text friends and phone family its not the same as having people physically there to talk to.

Another big aspect of university that I forgot about is the age gap between myself and the majority of the students in my year. Now I’m nearly 21, most of the people in my university year have just turned 18. Not a huge gap but the maturity difference is noticeable.

Think back to 3 years ago, how different were you?

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It’s laughable as it really isn’t much of a gap but I have been called old! I’ve also been quizzed on why I would live with a boyfriend at such a young age (because why settle down when you can go out and get drunk all the time.) I still go out and get drunk usually with him and even if I didn’t does it really matter?

I know I’m not the oldest person to ever attend uni and there is definitely people in my year in their 30’s and possibly even 40’s so its hysterical that a 17 year old would call someone 20 old.

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This post has made it out that moving has been all doom and gloom. It’s not, I am very happy in my decisions to move here and go to uni. Things will change, uni is nearly over which will allow friends to visit more often and it will allow me to go home more often. I am planning to join a society or club at uni next year but this year was to hectic to add another activity in.

Homesickness is something that everyone will experience in their life. Right now I am just looking forward to heading home today where I can visit everyone and just have a few chill days.

If anyone has any tips or advice on how to shift this feeling let me know in the comments!

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Posted by:everythingevening

I am a 20 year old Marketing Student living away from home for the first time. I will be using this blog to talk about how I've found moving out/away, university and just different interests.

30 replies on “Homesickness.

  1. No-one really prepared me for just how lonely I would be at university, and since I moved from Northern Ireland to Scotland for it, I’m lucky if I get to see my boyfriend once every 3 weeks. It can be a real struggle, and I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels it! Thank you for being so open with your feelings, great post.

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  2. Evie, firstly super good read. Secondly, hang in there. I know everyone probably says it, but I promise things do and will get better and moving away from home is a big thing without everything else you’ve got going on, you’re doing amazing girl xx

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  3. Thank you for sharing this post and your feelings! I’ve never experienced home sickness as I decided not to go to uni. I hope things get a bit better soon and you’re able to visit home that bit more xx

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  4. I used to get homesick a lot when I was first in college! It went away after l made friends and got more comfortable, then I got re-homesick when all my friends ditched me. I know how you’re feeling, I hope it gets better soon! 💞 x

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  5. Being lonely is really hard! When I started college last year, I was so afraid that I wasn’t going to be able to make new friends because I’m an introverted person, but luckily I did! I hope uni will get better for you and I’m always here for you if you feel lonely! 😊

    I also want to say that I love that you’re so honest in this post and I would love to read a follow-up post on how you’re feeling and if things get better or not! 😊

    Xoxo
    Shirley | https://shirleycuypers.blogspot.be

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  6. “We’ve lived here for 6 months surely I should have felt like this at the beginning not now?”

    Girl everyone goes through things at their own pace and when I moved away from home I was exactly the same. Maybe it’s because we are so busy in the first few months with new adjustments or because it doesn’t seem real at the beginning but it’s totally normal to feel this way later on down the track. It will eventually pass.

    PS. You’re soooooo not old haha but I completely agree about the huge gap with maturity! Whenever I’m around my little sisters friends that are freshly eighteen I honestly feel like I’m speaking in a totally different language to them. Feeling lonely is really hard thing to go through, but just know that even though you might feel like no one is there, you have always got you’re blog readers here (like me) to chat with!

    Sending love and hugs xxxxxx

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  7. I can relate so much. Even more so as I’m from abroad so i get how difficult it is to not be able to see your family or friends on a regular basis. My parents are getting old too and I feel the same way about them as you about your Grans. I know how lonely it can be even though I’m living with my sister and her son, but still. But it will get better, you’ll settle and find new friends!
    Hugsss xxx

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  8. I used to struggle with homesickness when I went to uni, really badly for the first few weeks! I made sure I went out and did some fun things, but also took some time out for pampering myself. It’s a massive change to adjust to, but it will get easier with time xx

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  9. I found this so interesting, but I guess you never know when something like loneliness is going to hit you. I can’t say I ever felt homesick when I moved away, probably because I made good friends quite quickly. Home was 5 hours away for me so it’s probably a good thing I didn’t get homesick. Hopefully this is just a phase for you x

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

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  10. This post couldn’t be more relatable for me this week – I haven’t been home since Christmas either and I only live 1.5 hours away! I just haven’t had the chance with uni work and train tickets are so expensive nowadays. I’ve been feeling pretty low recently, and I think a visit home would help! a

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